As I sit here and look at everything that is going on in my life right now, I feel overwhelmed…I want to run screaming from my house to a tropical beach somewhere. There is clean an dirty laundry in piles, I mean PILES, stuff is everywhere not put up, the husband is sick, the kid is whiny and why in the hell did I get a dog again? Yes, I feel overwhelmed right now! Did I mention my taxes are due Tuesday?
Ahhhhhhhhhhhh! Yes, I definitely want to runaway from home. The thing is, I CHOOSE this! None of this is “doing” anything to me to make me feel overwhelmed. I CHOOSE to have quality time with family before chores. I CHOOSE to leave taxes till the last minute. I CHOOSE to let laundry pile up and WE collectively as a family, CHOSE to get a dog. I even CHOOSE to pay my taxes!
Now, what am i going to do about my overwhelm? Well, I’m going to look at the overwhelm with humor and do one thing at a time in order of priority. Taxes are first. ugh! Then I guess I will fold one towel at a time, dump all the kids stuff in her room, barricade the dog in the kitchen/living room area which is child…I mean dog proofed, and then go from there doing one thing at a time.
Here are the 3 steps I used to get “over” the “whelm”
1) Take responsibility. This helps me to own it and feel proactive rather than like a victim of circumstances.
2) Look at what you CAN do. When you look at what you can do instead of what you can’t do or even look at it as I choose to do these things rather than “I have” to do these things, I again start to get out of the ‘whelm” and into the empowered place.
3) Take it one thing at at time rather than looking at the enormity of it all.
I get to choose how I feel in my life. If I break things down using this 3 step process, I am able to get “over” my “whelm”. Extra tool? Journaling. I feel myself calming down as I write this post as it helps give me clarity. Now, I am gonna have a cup of tea and go work on my taxes.
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