“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.” ~John F. Kennedy

This speaks to me of the old adage, talk is cheap and actions speak louder than words. If you or someone that you know says one thing and does another it is called incongruent behavior. The truth is in the behavior.

Pay attention to your own thoughts and behaviors and also to others’ statements and actions. A classic example of incongruence is someone who says that they love you and then treat you poorly or abusively. The truth is in the actions not the words. That person is not living through actions, the above quote.

If you or someone you know is in an emotionally or otherwise abusive relationship, please get help as you cannot get out of the cycle of abuse alone.