Give Yourself Permission to Say “No”
“No.” It’s such a tiny word, yet it can be packed with so much meaning and interpretation. It can bring freedom and also instill guilt in the one saying it. Being the one to hear it from someone else is cringeworthy at times. It can mean kindness or overextending yourself beyond your own limits to the point that it induces high levels of personal stress. In order to maintain a healthy balance in your life, including your physical health, giving yourself permission to say “no” in several areas of life is crucial.
6 Areas of Life to Empower the Word “No”; Give Yourself Permission!
1) Friendships you know don’t serve you or drain you or are only one way: give, give, give.
2) Romantic relationships that you feel in your heart and your gut you need to leave.
3) A job or career that is unsatisfying, not providing enough money, demeaning or puts your physical or mental health at risk.
4) A car (or other belongings) that do not meet your needs or fall within your financial commitments to yourself.
5) Clothing that does not help you to feel attractive. Also if it is not in line with your commitment to providing you with warmth, coverage or the message about your body you want to express to the world, donate, dump or get rid of it.
6) Taking on favors or the obligations of others that you truly have no desire to do or you know will add more stress to your own plate beyond what is wise for you to take on.
Empowerment is about experiencing choice around your everyday decisions and how you live your life. Whatever you choose to do or take on, for yourself or others, be sure it aligns with who you are and how you want to authentically live your life! Saying “No” is empowering on so many levels. When you are clear on your boundaries you will see more happiness and balance appear in your life.
Give me a call today at my San Diego office to get going on giving yourself permission to say no! I use an action oriented style in therapy that I call, coaching counseling. Call today to see if the services I offer are a fit for you! 619-687-9013