“Maybe Christmas, He thought, doesn’t come from a store… Maybe Christmas…perhaps…means a little bit more.” -Dr. Seuss
So my daughter just turned 13 years old in November and got the 2 presents that she wanted for her bday. When I ask her what she wants for Christmas she says, “I dunno, I just had my birthday and got what I wanted.” I love that she is not materialistic. She wanted a backpack for swim and a swim parka.
Me, not so much. I grew up with a whole lotta not much and felt I was missing out. I felt a profound sense of longing and even yearning for “things” that I could not have. Interesting that when I did get Christmas money I would spend it on buying things for others in my family. My deep feelings of not having “things” turned into an addiction; trying to feel happy by buying things, and I was $45,000 in debt on credit cards by the time I was 21 years old.
So, I got my butt into therapy and cut up my credit cards and used the consumer Credit Counseling Agency to pay off every cent. It was a long road to recovery.
I can see that the work I did on myself paid off though, because my daughter is not materialistic.
I think I will give her some present coupons to use throughout the year for when she does find something that she would like.
I learned through therapy, that things don’t make ‘ya happy. Experiences and quality time spent with loved ones, friends and family, spending time with God, being in the moment; those are the things that make me happy.
Spend time really assessing yourself and your habits; good and bad. Keep the good habits and get to work on changing the bad ones. Only you can do it!
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