This is a really strong word, one that I really like!!! I feels good! I get to be in charge of my life and as Brene Brown writes, I get to be the author of my own story/ending!
One very powerful way to take action in this area is to start to pay attention to the inner critic in your head and to take charge of that voice. Typically it is a very negative voice that criticizes everything that you do, say, how you look, and even how you feel.
Try this technique: Every time that you say something negative to yourself in your head, challenge yourself to counter that thought and then say 3 positives about yourself.
Another way to empower yourself is to check out what “should” statements you say to yourself. These are very powerful and usually negative “put-downs” on yourself and expectations that you say to yourself.
For Example: I should be more positive. I should take a break. I should call my Grandmother. Sounds guilt-trippy! The underlying communication to yourself is, “I am not good enough, or I am not doing a good job.”
Try this technique: Challenge yourself to restate the sentence in your head with substituting the words “I choose” to do blankity-blank. Puts it in a WHOLE new perspective. When you use the words “I choose”, you are in the drivers seat. You have to take responsibility and this is very empowering!!!
Now change the examples above and substitute the word CHOOSE for SHOULD and see how the sentences make you feel. It might be kinda uncomfortable! What does the new statement require of you?
While you are at it, look out for “shoulda’s” pesky cousins “woulda” and “coulda”. The trifecta of YUCK in your head will only bring you down!
So, QUIT “should-ing” all over yourself! You don’t deserve it!!! Take the drivers seat and take action. Empower yourself with CHOICES in your life and then take ACTION to feel better!!!!
I am all about making concrete changes in life to feel better and live happier, and more productively! I use a coaching & teaching style in my counseling sessions to help you achieve the goals that you want to in your life!!!
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